Celebrations of Life Oh to be a grandmother, celebrating all the wonders and joys of little people around you and watching them grow into beautiful people and knowing you have helped the tree of life to live on. Here you will find tales of the many of these wee ones.


About Me    
" De modo matrimonia jungendi apud fennos quondam vigente "

Zacharias Topelius 1818-1898
Prolific Swedish speaking writer, journalist, professor of history, whose historical novels became part of the national awakening in Finland from the 1850s. Zacharias Topelius had three major roles: he was a superb story teller for children, he described Finland and her landscape, and he was the founder of the Finnish historic novel. Topelius's works have been translated into 20 languages.

Here are some of the woman who had added to his blood line.
saimi salonen m.kauko kuoppamäki, marieantoinette elwell m. eero kuoppamäki, pirjo hujanen m. pauli kuoppamäki, annimaria rinna m.simo kuoppamäki

for my grandchildren...Heather, Johnathan, Tobias and Oliver Kuoppamäki.

Baron von Behr

Here are some of the woman who added to this blood line.
marie stuebe m. ernst hoge, hilda gronlund m. paul hoge, marie elwell m. robert hoge, saara ollikainen m. robin hoge, taru had eerika by robin outside of marriage

for my grandchildren Eerika and Robinson

Be patient, all this takes time.

As Generation-Y, you're the new frontier. We've experienced the largest generational gap in history and sometimes life isn't easy. These are 100 rules Generation-Y should live by:

1. You need a minimum of an hour to get ready before work or class.

2. Don't hit the snooze button. If you gotta get up, then get up.

3. Shaving is more than a suggestion. That goes for both men and women.

4. If you eat enough pizza, you will turn into a tub of oily cheese.

5. Running isn't just for four-legged animals.

6. Getting high gets old.

7. Getting drunk doesn't. But don't tell that to your liver.

8. Unprotected sex is a regret waiting to happen.

9. The quiet ones are the best between the sheets — although it may take some time for them to open up.

10. Dating is overrated and usually a waste of time.

11. Don't date unless you think you may fall in love with them.

12. Facebook is boring and a waste of time. It is. Really.

13. When you think you're missing out, you're not.

14. Nothing good happens after 3 am.

15. Sex is better if you are emotionally involved with your partner.

16. Reading is always better than watching TV.

17. Watching reality TV makes you dumber.

18. Yay, you can twerk!! But can you do anything useful?

19. The way people see you is just as important as the way you see yourself.

20. Friends are hard to come by. Don't ignore those you have.

21. Most people want something from you.

22. There is no such thing as free.

23. You don't have a hole in your wallet; money just disappears.

24. Putting more money into your car than the car is worth makes you look stupid.

25. Listening to music too loud CAN make you go deaf.

26. Drunken sloppy sex is only good the first time — maybe the first two times.

27. Don't spend money on things you don't need because you won't have money for the things that you do need.

28. In a healthy relationship, he should love you even more without makeup.

29. Being in a relationship is not a reason to let yourself go.

30. More tongue is not the answer.

31. Ladies: your teeth are for chewing. We don't like to be chewed.

32. Never be satisfied with your current sex life, always strive to be better. Try new things, you might like it #Shocker.

33. Stop using hashtags. They're not always appropriate.

34. If you can get her into bed before date 3, then you'll get bored with her by week 2.

35. We all like the chase.

36. Love will cost you.

37. Men may not only be looking for sex, but sex is definitely a part of it. A big part.

38. Waiting until you get married to have sex is dangerous.

39. Bad sex = bad relationship.

40. If you're going to get a tattoo then make it small and have it somewhere inconspicuous.

41. Savings accounts are not for dummies.

42. You will hate yourself for getting a new credit card.

43. If you're feeling sh*tty, get some exercise.

44. You should always do your best to look your best because it will make you feel your best.

45. Orgies.

46. Learn to play chess.

47. The world works, in large part, by manipulation.

48. Having the ability to read people will get you further in life than anything else.

49. It's not just whom you know, but also what you know that matters.

50. You should live in New York City for at least a year.

51. You should live abroad for at least a year.

52. As a rule of thumb, don't do drugs. You don't ever know what you're actually taking.

53. Less is almost always more.

54. Beauty lies in simplicity.

55. Overcomplicating things leaves things overly complicated.

56. If you sleep around with a lot of people, then get tested. Otherwise, who cares? As long as you're clean, you're clean.

57. Make mistakes now. Making them later will be too late.

58. We all want what we can't have. Remind yourself of that every day.

59. You can do less and produce more.

60. It's all about efficiency.

61. You can't buy time.

62. Time itself is an illusion. Always think: "I'll be there before I know it." And you'll prove yourself right each time.

63. They stopped making good music in the 90s.

64. You don't actually want to be a DJ. You just don't understand what it means to be one.

65. Lower your expectations and you won't be so disappointed.

66. Using toys can be fun for both parties.

67. Size does matter. It goes for both sexes.

68. If you expect oral sex then have the courtesy to lather and rinse beforehand.

69. Don't say I love you unless you mean it.

70. Don't be afraid to fall in love.

71. Yoga.

72. Violence is for idiots. Use your words.

73. Being smarter does make you the better person.

74. Kill them with kindness.

75. You don't need to be an assh*le to get ahead in life, but you can't be a pushover either.

76. Your cellphone is ruining your life.

77. There is no substitute for face-to-face human interaction.

78. Get checkups regularly. It could save your life.

79. If you're going to smoke, then use a vaporizer.

80. It is your moral responsibility to be healthy.

81. Going down goes a long way.

82. Slow and gentle will always get her off. Rough and intense only works on occasion.

83. If you're using the pulling-out method, then you have a good chance of pulling out a baby in a few months.

84. Don't drink cheap liquor.

85. Don't eat crap food.

86. Drink lots and lots of water. Most of you are chronically dehydrated.

87. Meditate.

88. Sudoku helps fight off future dementia.

89. You don't have ADD.

90. You're most likely to be your own cause of depression.

91. The way you see the world is all that matters. But understand that you may be delusional.

92. There's always more to the story.

93. People lie.

94. You are alone in this life. Accept that and appreciate the moments when you don't feel so alone.

95. Family is more important.

96. If you don't work to improve yourself every day then you are wasting your life.

97. Passion is what makes life worth living.

98. You are always better off than most people in the world.

99. You aren't entitled to sh*t — nada. You get what you earn.

100. No matter what happens, never give up. Ever.

18 Common Phrases to Avoid in Conversation

Some things should never be said--like these phrases. Here, what to say instead.

What Not to Say About Someone's Appearance

Don't say: "You look tired."
Why: It implies she doesn't look good.
Instead say: "Is everything OK?" We often blurt the "tired" comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask.

Don't say: "Wow, you've lost a ton of weight!"
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive.
Instead say: "You look fantastic." And leave it at that. If you're curious about how she got so svelte, add, "What's your secret?"

Don't say: "You look good for your age."
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It's saying, "You look great--compared with other old people. It's amazing you have all your own teeth."
Instead say: "You look great."

Don't say: "I could never wear that."
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. ("I could never wear that because it's so ugly.")
Instead say: "You look so good in skinny jeans." If you slip, say something like "I could never wear that…because I wasn't blessed with your long legs."

What Not to Say in the Workplace

Don't say: "That's not my job."
Why: If your superior asks you to do something, it is your job.
Instead say: "I'm not sure that should be my priority right now." Then have a conversation with your boss about your responsibilities.

Don't say: "This might sound stupid, but…"
Why: Never undermine your ideas by prefacing your remarks with wishy-washy language.
Instead say: What's on your mind. It reinforces your credibility to present your ideas with confidence.

Don't say: "I don't have time to talk to you."
Why: It's plain rude, in person or on the phone.
Instead say: "I'm just finishing something up right now. Can I come by when I'm done?" Graciously explain why you can't talk now, and suggest catching up at an appointed time later. Let phone calls go to voice mail until you can give callers your undivided attention.

What Not to Say During a Job Interview
Don't say: "My current boss is horrendous."
Why: It's unprofessional. Your interviewer might wonder when you'd start bad-mouthing her. For all you know, she and your current boss are old pals.
Instead say: "I'm ready for a new challenge" or a similarly positive remark.

Don't say: "Do you think I'd fit in here?"
Why: You're the interviewee, not the interviewer.
Instead say: "What do you enjoy about working here?" By all means ask questions, but prepare ones that demonstrate your genuine interest in the company.

Don't say: "What are the hours like?" or "What's the vacation policy?"
Why: You want to be seen as someone who focuses on getting the job done.
Instead say: "What's the day-to-day like here?" Then, if you've really jumped through every hoop and time off still hasn't been mentioned, say, "Can you tell me about the compensation and benefits package?"

What Not to Say About Pregnancy and Babies
Don't say: "Are you pregnant?"
Why: You ask, she's not, and you feel totally embarrassed for essentially pointing out that she's overweight.
Instead say: "Hello" or "Great to see you" or "You look great." Anything besides "Are you pregnant?" or "What's the due date?" will do. Save yourself the humiliation and never ask.

Don't say: "Do you plan on breast-feeding?"
Why: The issue can be controversial, and she may not want to discuss her decision publicly.
Instead say: Nothing. Unless you're very close, don't ask. If you slip, make up for the blunder by adding, "And do you feel comfortable telling me?"

Don't say: "Were your twins natural?" or "It must have been hard for your child's birth parent to give him up."
Why: You're suggesting that natural conception is better than in vitro fertilization (IVF) or adoption.
Instead say: To a parent of multiples, try a light "Wow, you have your hands full!" To an adoptive parent, say the same stuff you would to any other parent: "She's adorable!" or "How old is he?"

What Not to Say to a Single (or Newly Single) Person
Don't say: "You were too good for him."
Why: You are basically saying she has bad taste. And you'll be embarrassed if they ever patch it up.
Instead say: "His loss!" It gets the same point across without disparaging her judgment.

Don't say: "I'm glad you got rid of him. I never liked him anyway."
Why: She'll wonder about your fake adoration for him while they were together.
Instead say: "I'm confident you'll find someone who will give you exactly what you want." It focuses on what's to come, not on the dud you're glad she's done with.

Don't say: "How could someone as perfect as you still be single?"
Why: A statement like this comes off as a backhanded compliment. What she hears is "What's wrong with you?"
Instead say: "Seeing anyone?" If she's tight-lipped about her love life, move on to other topics.

What Not to Say During a Fight with Your Beloved
Don't say: "You always" or "You never" or "You're a [slob, jerk]" or "You're wrong."
Why: Speaking in absolutes like "you always" and "you're wrong" is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse.
Instead say: "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?" Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he's in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.

Don't say: "If you really loved me, you would..."
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he'll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you'll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something isn't a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: "I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could…" The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you're upset and then offer a solution.

 "You know, opposites attract.
You can't have perfection … perfection is imperfection!
When you love each other,
you have to accept each other's flaws as well as gifts."

This is a story of never ending love, faithful, friendly, honest and givers of hope.

Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened."


A bear teaches us that if the heart is true, it doesn't matter much if an ear drops off."

A man is a fool if he drinks before he reaches the age of 50, and a fool if he doesn't afterward. Frank Lloyd Wright

A thought occurred to me and I decided to make a note of it. I found a piece of paper and a pen. I used the pen to write the note on the piece of paper.

Beauty is truth, truth beauty , that is all. Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.




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"Dreaming permits each and everyone of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives." --William Dement

"functional necrophilia"

frog orgy
There is nothing beneficial to a female about being killed in a orgy.

In the deadpan style of academics, Izzo writes that "such occurrences are obviously detrimental to females". You don't say.

There might even be some benefits for the female. She too gets a post-mortem chance of passing her genes to future frogs despite the unfortunate side effect of, her, being drowned by a ball of violent males. Silver lining!

Go to Heaven for the climate, Hell for the company. Mark Twain

Have you every been chased by a bee, or have you ever been stung by one? Tell me your story and I will print it here.

Hold your ground!

"How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live." -- Henry David Thoreau

I am trying to learn how to use this page but it's all in finnish and it takes trail and error so it's just full of gobbileegook

I fear that future generations will judge us harshly for our failure to place proper value on wildness, diversity, open space, spirit, solitude and other treasures of the natural world still available to us today. May they at least know that some of us tried

I find television very educating.
Every time somebody turns on the set,
I go into the other room and read a book.

Groucho Marx

Here at the Hellas the outhouse has a lovely library on the walls and art as well!

Pauli in Australia

"I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand,
as in what direction we are moving:
To reach the port of heaven, we must sail sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it,
but we must sail, and not drift, nor lie at anchor"

Oliver Wendell Holmes

I guess when you turn off the main road, you have to be prepared to see some funny houses. Stephen King

I have an everyday religion that works for me.
Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.

Lucille Ball

When I hum while I cook, watch out, a new dish
will be revealed and never to be made again.

"I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa

I hope you find what you are looking for. When you are starting to get old and beginning to fall apart like me, it will be something you can look back on, and cherish. You'll be better for it, both refueled and strengthened!

There is no way or reason  to tell the younger generation, for first of all they won't listen or care, and secondly they have their own lives and memories to make.

I might die young or I might die old, but I will never die of boredom.

if you are depressed, you are living in the past.

if you are anxious, you are living in the future.

if you are at peace, you are living in the present

lao tzu

If someone shows you their true colors, don't try to repaint them.

If you come to a fork in the road, take it. Yogi Berra

If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one. Dolly Parton


It's pretty well known that the CIA has been installing friendly dictators around the world for years. Rob Walto

In my opinion the best thing you can you do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person will still think the sun shines out of your ass. That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with.


is the ideal human condition

for introspection.

It had finally happened, the British have conquered America and cut down and burned all Bushes and Weeds that plagued the nation. To the surprise of everyone, Prince, better known as Phillip took it upon himself to marry a Queen but who would have known that this Queen, under her hat and tailored clothes was really..........well you will have to see the movie to know the truth. The white house now became gay and happy. This is a must see, under the covers of your bed and in darkness.

It's pretty well known that the CIA has been installing friendly dictators around the world for years.

 Rob Walto

I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done. Lucille Ball

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It's true, some of those childhood moments seem to last a lifetime and come up when you least expect them.

Life is not so much what you accomplish as what you overcome.


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Heidi when we lived in Versaille, she made those clothes out of her bedspread.

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.
You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

Lucille Ball

Lovers are to be remembered in warmth and moments of great happiness.

Dinner before the Theater

"Marriage should be between a spouse and a spouse,
not a gender and a gender."

 Hendrik Hertzberg
My three nevers.

never ask a person where they're from (intrusive)
never correct other people's english (insulting regardless of intent)
never ask what they do for a living (offensive).

Unless the person volunteers to offer any of the above,
I stick to polite conversation, "beautiful weather for
this time of the year, isn't it?"

And if it's someone who is asking in a Xenophobic
or otherwise hostile manner, my simple answer is
"I'm not from around here" and quietly leave.


Wisdom, Truth, Patience,

Foresight & Knowledge,

& a protector against harm.

Perhaps the religious beliefs and practices of this world are best summed up by the words recorded by one of Jesus Christ's first disciples, the apostle John. Under inspiration he wrote,

"So the great dragon was cast out, that serpent of old, called the Devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was cast to the earth, and his angels were cast out with him"

 (Revelation 12:9, emphasis added).

"Science may have found a cure for most evils,
but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all:
the apathy of human beings."

Helen Keller

Several times, when I was a teenager and in my early twenties,

I knowingly parachuted myself into environments

where I was isolated for months,

at least culturally and linguistically.

I didn't communicate with home,
I entirely cut myself off, I was alone and adrift,
there was no audience.

My only understandable companions were Penguin paperbacks,

and the only thing I ever missed was a bar of good chocolate.

The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart.

Stop the rhetoric that a woman is crazy or difficult. If a man says to you that a woman is crazy or difficult, ask him, What bad thing did you do to her?

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The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace alarmed (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing it with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary. H. L. Mencken

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting. Buddha

Church in Kuopio

"There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophy.
Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness."

Dalai Lama

There is no trouble
so great or grave
that cannot be much diminished
by a nice cup of tea.
~ Bernard-Paul Heroux

To see what is in front of one's nose needs a constant struggle. - George Orwell

We know what happens to people who stay in the middle of the road. They get run over. Ambrose Bierce

What is comedy?

Tragedy plus Time. from the movie

Crime and Misdemeanors

 Woody Allen

"what needs to know, knows"


"When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, "What was it that you wanted and why didn't you fight for it?" Shannon L. Alder

Heidi visiting us in 2015

Women are like tea bags.
They do not know how strong they are until they get into hot water.
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

You can close your eyes to reality, but not to memories. ------Stanislov J.Lee